zero quatre, année érotique

"Europäisches Jahr des Eros"?

finding the edge

eros is an issue of boundaries (..) infants begin to see by noticing the edges of things. How do they know an edge is an edge? By passionately wanting it not to be. (..)

Like Sapphos adjective glukupikron, the moment of desire is one that defies proper edge, being a compound of opposites forced together at pressure. Pleasure and pain at once register upon the lover, inasmuch as the desirability of the love object derives, in part, from its lack. To whom is it lacking? To the lover. If we follow the trajectory of eros we consistently find it tracing out this same route: it moves out from the lover toward the beloved, then ricochets back to the lover himself and the hole in him, unnoticed before. Who is the real subject of most love poems? Not the beloved. It is that hole.

from: eros the bittersweet